Adoption Perspective Shift

Having an adoption story often brings profound emotional challenges that ripple through our relationships and can disagree with our own self-awareness. We find ourselves navigating the complex dynamic of parents who may not fully understand us—and sometimes don’t even want to try. The unspoken trauma of not having a relationship with our birth parents is a burden many people around us can’t comprehend.

The Unseen Struggles of Adoptees

For many of us, the experience of adoption manifests in specific, often unspoken ways:

Attachment Challenges

• Many adoptees resonate with attachment theory, noticing that we may be more prone to both anxious and avoidant attachment styles. This often leaves us asking, “How do I work with this?”

• Relationships, especially with our adoptive family, may suffer due to unaddressed abandonment wounds, creating tension that is challenging to overcome.

•   Our emotional experiences can feel overwhelming, making it hard to form healthy connections, especially when others don’t share the same experiences.

Shifting the Narrative on Healing

The journey of healing doesn’t have to be so difficult! Healthy connections can form in unconventional ways, and that’s where spirituality comes in. Cultivating a relationship with spirit—using whatever name you choose to give it—can provide a natural healing process, helping us become more resilient and less reliant on external sources of support that don’t feel amazing.

Spirituality offers the potential to be our guidance system, a personal compass you could call it. Spirit can be the reliability we’ve always desired, but could never find in another person in the ways we needed — they’re always available to support you, allowing you to release the struggle to control everything. By utilizing spirit in this way, we establish a connection over time that’s present whenever we need.