Having an adoption story often brings profound emotional challenges that ripple through our relationships and can disagree with our own self-awareness. We find ourselves navigating the complex dynamic of parents who may not fully understand us—and sometimes don’t even want to try. The unspoken trauma of not having a relationship with our birth parents is a burden many people around us can’t comprehend.
Adoption Perspective Shift
Providing ourselves a much needed shift in responsibility to spirituality can allow for our adoption story to become less of a burden. We no longer need to be in control of the narrative, but can allow a new and reliable system to come into the picture.
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Your Path to Spiritual Connection
At Return Home, we call it spirit, but you can call it whatever resonates with you. We are here to assist you in remembering your own divine connection and nurturing it in a way that helps you heal and grow.
The journey toward healing doesn’t have to rest solely on your shoulders. Return Home is here to guide you through finding your own connection with spirituality and establishing a clear line of communication with your inner guidance.
Worked Through & Can Help Others
- Attachment Styles and Energetic Processing – Continually working with how I perceive my attachment to others through energetic and spiritual based meditation, making the focus of healing less cognitive.
- Parental Triggers and Not Reacting – Learning how to step back from the “typical blowups” that I’d have as a child. Finding a way to respond, or walk away has been empowering to myself an my family.
- Trusting Spirit to Guide – Figuring out what next step is necessary proved to be exhausting. Shifting my focus to seeing how it is that spirit wanted me to interact with my parents has been liberating.
- Providing Space for Parents Emotions – Noticing how my parents’ emotions affect me and making sure that I’m doing my work to keep my side of the street clean.
- Removing Blame from the Equation – Instead of blaming my parents for not being good enough, or thinking they should be different than they are, I’ve worked to allow them to be as they are, no strings attached. This shift provides everyone a fair playing field to function however they naturally do. I can set boundaries when needed, and continue to explore what it’s like for us all to be sovereign humans worthy of respect and love.
- Reclaiming Power – Recognizing the ways I’ve given up my power and consciously choosing to take back my agency.
Current Growth Areas
- Identifying Patterns in Family Dynamics – Noticing how certain behaviors are perpetuated in my life. For example, in what ways do I behave like my mom because of how I perceived her growing up? Or do I tend towards my dad’s behavior and how it shaped the family dynamics? Observing my responses to others outside of the family helps me uncover these patterns.
- Observing Emotional Responses as Information – Instead of trying to immediately fix or analyze my emotions, I’m learning to simply notice them as reflections of past experiences. This is the work of surrender—reminding myself that spirit still exists and allowing myself to “glimpse” moments of clarity without forcing a solution.
- Detangling Social Media Adoption Norms – Rather than interact with my parents in ways that social media says are necessary for healthy adaption to society (ie. cutting family out forever, setting boundaries making access close to impossible, making the relationships one sided so family has no say at all…etc) I am pursuing a path that includes allowing a relationship to happen during difficult times. How can I set myself up for success? Am I able to restrict my own behaviors so its never anyone’s fault, but instead becomes a learning opportunity? Did I meet with them for too long yesterday? Should I end a phone call sooner to respect my own emotional system and theirs as well?